The last few weeks have been let’s say challenging, I will admit after the second, third row with my beautiful selfish spoilt young people in my house,I was struggling to remember that I was the adult, You know the saying give an inch and they take a mile, not in this house these two take the whole of west London, Whatever you give they always want that bit more, So took hold and expressed my feeling, thoughts, of their actions, I am happy to say we all apologized and we are all friend again, If I really have to take any responsibility Then I have to remember my daughter is not a little girl anymore and to respect and support her new journey in life, I can do that, as long as her journey is not too far away from home. To any parent who may be suffering due to the fact you have a teenagers, Firstly My heart goes out to you all, Stay strong, All families row and I believe this is healthy, you may not like what your child is saying but you are showing them what they have to say is important and they are free to express themselves without fear of judgment.
I am very aware that some people of all ages are just not nice and their hearts are full of hate, and you will never be able to understand how someone can take so much pleasure from others misfortune. but if you flip this there is man, women and child suffering, struggling with life, poverty, being abused in every way, Mental health Issues they do this in silence, you would never know to look at them some of their actions and attitude makes them look disrespectful colds and heartless, I have had the pleasure of meeting some beautiful young people, Life has dealt them some raw Life cards. I try to help where I can, from my experience These young ones want someone to listen to them believe what they are saying,
The advice I give is that even tho they might not deserve to have such a hard life Never think the world owes you and there is no easy way or a free ride because if that’s what they are waiting for Good luck with that, If you behave like a d**k you get treated like one, What do whinny little bitches who stamp their feet absolutely F**K all not on my watch. The responce they get from people would be so much more positive if they changed thier attitude and show . some respect, A few occasions I have taken myself of groups after some of the comments that have been made about the youth of today, I would never justify any violent, criminal activity that is sadly happening every day if we were to inflict the violence and Hate that these grown adults were suggesting that makes them no better, I am not going to repeat the cruel disgusting comments, I will not highlight or publish their filth, what I will say is if they are parent themselves I would be very worried about the children welfare Mentally and physically,. they should be visited by the child protection team one of the groups A vile women told me I am a nutter and I’m wired because I didn’t agree with their nasty cruel Comments, this women’s profile picture was of a beautiful baby well if you are a mother Shame on you
I completely understand why people would be angry and upset My heart goes out to the parents and family of these young people that have lost their life, I’m not here to say anyone should help but maybe not to judge on the first appearance this person could have suffered in many ways or have serious Mental health issues.
No one said it was easy
That feeling you get when you find out you’re pregnant, or when your baby kicks for the first time, the Labour wow that hurts. Then you see your beautiful healthy baby it was all worth it The love you have for this little person. all your dreams come true <3…
Then as your child gets older, Brothers and Sisters come along and if you’re very lucky all your children stay as angelic as they were when born, I repeat Lucky, and for the unlucky ones, The shit hits the fan and your children turn in to Teenage nightmares. The tears, the self-doubt, the stress, and the repeated question “Why why, why” and “why me” and you try everything possible to make thing better, to try to understand your child’s mood swings, their hurtful words or as much as you give them they want just that little bit more. How many times have you thought about walking out the door not looking back? or the people who think they know better and have all the idea’s and they don’t even have a child, Don’t you just want to poke them in the eye, don’t do this, violence is not the answer For all the parents that are going through this Trauma, Keep going be strong there is an end to this bleak tunnel, I send you to love, strength and the will to carry on, you are amazing and I am proud of you.
To the parent who believes their job is done when your child reaches a certain age Get in the real world, Step up and get your child off the street, They are your responsibility as a parent the good and the bad, your job is never done as a parent, Everyone slags of the young people for how they behave, Why do they think it’s not wrong to kill each other or bully, intimidate people, not to have the social skills to treat people with love and respect This starts at home, Teach your child’s Life skills to help them to protect themselves and others Teach them how to grow in to a positive kind adult, If they can’t hear then they must feel If you have tried your hardest then no one can ask for more.
I will always be here for you, Love you always Mummy kell xxx
Children who witness Violent abusive relationships in the home can then become involved in abusive relationships later on, Our children know what we teach and show them, I believe it is the parent’s responsibility to make sure their children know that violence, abuse of any kind is always wrong, To teach them social skills self-love self-respect and self-worth
Children of any age are affected by domestic violence and abuse. At no age will they be unaffected by what is happening, even when they are in the womb. Obviously, it is very upsetting for children to see one of their parents (or partners) abusing, attacking or controlling the other.
Younger children may become anxious. They may complain of tummy-aches or start to wet their bed. They may find it difficult to sleep, have temper tantrums and start to behave as if they are much younger than they are. They may also find it difficult to separate from their abused parent when they start nursery or school.
Older children react differently. Boys seem to express their distress much more outwardly, for example by becoming aggressive and disobedient. Sometimes, they start to use violence to try to solve problems and may copy the behavior they see within the family. Older boys may play truant and start to use alcohol or drugs (both of which are a common way of trying to block out disturbing experiences and memories). I myself have seen this in young people and what started as a way to block feeling and emotions go on to Addiction of alcohol and or drugs, and criminal activity to supply their Habbit.
Girls are more likely to keep their distress inside. They may become withdrawn from other people, and become anxious or depressed. They may think badly of themselves and complain of vague physical symptoms. They are more likely to have an eating disorder or to harm themselves by taking overdoses or cutting themselves. They are also more likely to choose an abusive partner themselves. young girls also allow themselves to be abused having very little Confidence or self-respect.
Children of any age can develop symptoms of what is called ‘Post-traumatic Stress Disorder’. They may get nightmares, flashbacks, become very jumpy, and have headaches and physical pains.
Children dealing with domestic violence and abuse often do badly at school. Their frightening experiences at home make it difficult to concentrate in school, and if they are worried about their abused parent, they may refuse to go to school.
My last born..
Well I made it, My last born has just celebrated her 18th Birthday Being a mum never ends but I now have four adult children I have been a mother for 28 years and I have much amazing fun, proud and happy memories of the children growing up but I would be lying to say it has been easy and without troubles even heartbreak, I am sharing this for all the parents who may be in the toilet crying or pulling out there last hair Stay strong, Keep trying Believe me its worth it in the end
R.I.P Young one’z
My thoughts on the man calling these three young people who died on the train track Scum, Why would you say that? I’m sure these boys Family’s really don’t need to see that. I expressed my love and thoughts to the boys and there family’s Just one of the comment I got from a very rude man
“they deserve everything they get, Hope the train hurt them when it hit them” ” They got no-one to blame but themselves” Vandal Scum,
I am not saying they weren’t wrong for what they were doing and I can’t imagine how the train driver feels but to call them names and say they deserve death this is from adults and they wonder why the children of today have the attitude and lack of respect for human life No parent should have to bury their child My love and thoughts are still with these boys and there family’s regardless to those who said I was wrong.
I felt like I was being bullied because I showed compassion These nasty cruel people have reinforced the fact there are very little love and compassion in this world