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This is truly heartbreaking as there is no reason or justification This little man has lost his life because of the stupid-ness that is going on in our streets Kids killing each other well I hope whoever lite this fire it haunts you for the rest of your life Shame on you R.I.P Young one the Angels will take care you,  My love and thought are with you and your family God Bless x 3b67f496db9f93e7249b2281a6603891

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#Parenting


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No one said it was easy 

That feeling you get when you find out you’re pregnant, or when your baby kicks for the first time, the Labour wow that hurts. Then you see your beautiful healthy baby it was all worth it The love you have for this little person. all your dreams come true <3… 

Then as your child gets older, Brothers and Sisters come along and if you’re very lucky all your children stay as angelic as they were when born, I repeat Lucky, and for the unlucky ones, The shit hits the fan and your children turn in to Teenage nightmares. The tears, the self-doubt,  the stress, and the repeated question “Why why, why” and “why me” and you try everything possible to make thing better, to try to understand your child’s mood swings, their hurtful words or as much as you give them they want just that little bit more. How many times have you thought about walking out the door not looking back? or the people who think they know better and have all the idea’s  and they don’t even have  a child, Don’t you just want to poke them in the eye, don’t do this, violence is not the answer  For all the parents that are going through this Trauma, Keep going be strong there is an end to this bleak tunnel, I send you to love, strength and the will to carry on, you are amazing and I am proud of you.

To the parent who believes their job is done when your child reaches a certain age Get in the real world,  Step up and get your child off the street, They are your responsibility as a parent the good and the bad, your job is never done as a parent, Everyone slags of the young people for how they behave, Why do they think it’s not wrong to kill each other or bully, intimidate people, not to have the social skills to treat people with love and respect This starts at home, Teach your child’s Life skills to help them to protect themselves and others Teach them how to grow in to a positive kind adult, If they can’t hear then they must feel If you have tried your hardest then no one can ask for more.

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#Healthandwellbeing


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Yes it is a little uncomfortable even a little Embarrassing, The Doctors/Nurses that are doing the screening must have seen all shapes and sizes, Fanny’s that is, I dread it when I know my smear is due because I feel like every other woman, But I still go, Living longer being able to spend time with my family making beautiful memories means more to me then a few moments of feeling uncomfortable and Embarrassed.

“How did my Mummy die”   “She was too Embarrassed to have a smear test” A bit harsh you may think but true, 

Women are being urged not to miss their smear tests as screening rates hit a 20-year low and a charity admits ‘the Jade Goody effect is long gone’.

Latest statistics show attendance of cervical screening in England is the lowest for two decades, having fallen to 72 percent. R.I.P. Beautiful Lady ❤

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Children who witness Violent abusive relationships in the home can then become involved in abusive relationships later on,  Our children know what we teach and show them, I believe it is the parent’s responsibility to make sure their children know that violence, abuse of any kind is always wrong, To teach them social skills self-love self-respect and self-worth

Children of any age are affected by domestic violence and abuse. At no age will they be unaffected by what is happening, even when they are in the womb. Obviously, it is very upsetting for children to see one of their parents (or partners) abusing, attacking or controlling the other.

Younger children may become anxious. They may complain of tummy-aches or start to wet their bed. They may find it difficult to sleep, have temper tantrums and start to behave as if they are much younger than they are. They may also find it difficult to separate from their abused parent when they start nursery or school.

Older children react differently. Boys seem to express their distress much more outwardly, for example by becoming aggressive and disobedient. Sometimes, they start to use violence to try to solve problems and may copy the behavior they see within the family. Older boys may play truant and start to use alcohol or drugs (both of which are a common way of trying to block out disturbing experiences and memories). I myself have seen this in young people and what started as a way to block feeling and emotions go on to Addiction of alcohol and or drugs, and criminal activity to supply their Habbit.

Girls are more likely to keep their distress inside. They may become withdrawn from other people, and become anxious or depressed. They may think badly of themselves and complain of vague physical symptoms. They are more likely to have an eating disorder or to harm themselves by taking overdoses or cutting themselves. They are also more likely to choose an abusive partner themselves. young girls also allow themselves to be abused having very little Confidence or self-respect.  

Children of any age can develop symptoms of what is called ‘Post-traumatic Stress Disorder’. They may get nightmares, flashbacks, become very jumpy, and have headaches and physical pains.

Children dealing with domestic violence and abuse often do badly at school. Their frightening experiences at home make it difficult to concentrate in school, and if they are worried about their abused parent, they may refuse to go to school.

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My last born..

Well I made it, My last born has just celebrated her 18th Birthday Being a mum never ends but I now have four adult children I have been a mother for 28 years and I have much amazing fun, proud and happy memories of the children growing up but I would be lying to say it has been easy and without troubles even heartbreak, I am sharing this for all the parents who may be in the toilet crying or pulling out there last hair Stay strong, Keep trying Believe me its worth it in the end

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I don’t think I am alone when I say, Well I hope not lol I have made mistakes and made decision that didn’t work out and at times my choices were poor as a mother, woman, and person.

How I dealt with this in the past was to never show my weakness or fuck-ups to keep your head high and hope no one sees your struggles because you should never show your weakness allowing people to use it against you, this would just put extra pressure on myself from my healing and recovery. I know now that was wrong in so many ways.

To be able to say I made a mistake makes me human, I made them trying to improve my life thinking it was for the best.

A real friend will love you and support you in times of need, not use it against you.

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Be very particular about the people you have in your life

I can hold my head up high and say I tried my hardest, nothing can be used against me because I do not seek approval or care what others think of me I have enough unconditional love and support around me that if you have a dislike for me Ok see ya.

What I have written above all starts from Lack of confidence, Self-esteem, Self-love and the inability to Express yourself in a positive confident way.  

For taking the time To read x

Written by K.L.SPM-LOGO

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R.I.P Young one’z

 

My thoughts on the man calling these three young people who died on the train track Scum, Why would you say that? I’m sure these boys Family’s really don’t need to see that. I expressed my love and thoughts to the boys and there family’s Just one of the comment I got  from a very rude man

“they deserve everything they get, Hope the train hurt them when it hit them”  ” They got no-one to blame but themselves”  Vandal Scum,

I am not saying they weren’t wrong for what they were doing and I can’t imagine how the train driver feels but to call them names and say they deserve death this is from adults and they wonder why the children of today have the attitude and lack of respect for human life No parent should have to bury their child My love and thoughts are still with these boys and there family’s regardless to those who said I was wrong.

I felt like I was being bullied because I showed compassion These nasty cruel people have reinforced the fact there are very little love  and compassion in this world